I'm here to deliver some bad news to all mummies or new mummies.
1. Guess what? Your old lifestyle is OVER. If u don't have enough time to sleep, that's normal. If u don't have time to eat a 3 course meal.. that's normal. If you have to hold yr pee n yr poo for more than an hour until u feel yr bladder is gonna explode... again.. normal!
2. If your baby seems to want no one but you... normal. You know why? Cos you are the mother? Grandmother, nanny, daddy cannot replace. Even u spray them with your breastmilk so that they smell like you.. bad news.. you are irreplaceable.
3. If your baby falls sick every once in a while despite being a fully bf baby.. normal! Your milk is wonderful but its no miracle water that can prevent all sickness. As much as we encourage natural remedies.. do get doctor's diagnose 1st and do not PURPOSELY expose them to sickneas tp build immunity.
4. If your baby only cries, poo n wanna nurse in the 1st few mths of his/her life.. NORMAL! Don't even attempt to feed cereal at 4 months old or start solid before they are ready. Imagine yourself being tied to a chair n someone is force feeding you n u have no choice but to swallow... yes that's what you are doing to your baby. 6 mths n below... milk ONLY.
1. Guess what? Your old lifestyle is OVER. If u don't have enough time to sleep, that's normal. If u don't have time to eat a 3 course meal.. that's normal. If you have to hold yr pee n yr poo for more than an hour until u feel yr bladder is gonna explode... again.. normal!
2. If your baby seems to want no one but you... normal. You know why? Cos you are the mother? Grandmother, nanny, daddy cannot replace. Even u spray them with your breastmilk so that they smell like you.. bad news.. you are irreplaceable.
3. If your baby falls sick every once in a while despite being a fully bf baby.. normal! Your milk is wonderful but its no miracle water that can prevent all sickness. As much as we encourage natural remedies.. do get doctor's diagnose 1st and do not PURPOSELY expose them to sickneas tp build immunity.
4. If your baby only cries, poo n wanna nurse in the 1st few mths of his/her life.. NORMAL! Don't even attempt to feed cereal at 4 months old or start solid before they are ready. Imagine yourself being tied to a chair n someone is force feeding you n u have no choice but to swallow... yes that's what you are doing to your baby. 6 mths n below... milk ONLY.
5. I cannot cannot cannot stand those asking on how to sleep train. Lagi cannot cannot cannot stand those who teach others to sleep train. Your 3 months old wakes up every 2 hours to nurse of just to whine... NORMAL!! Don't even attempt to let your baby cry it out n throw away your Gina Ford book please. Imagine yourself unable to move and have poop stuck to your bum or you are feeling so hungry. Can u ignore it and sleep for 10 hours???
6. One more: no one like to 'drink' food from the bottle. If u intend to start cereal for LO when they are 6 months young, please let him / her to sit up and enjoy food from the proper plate / bowl with suitable spoon. That's the purpose of kitchen cutlery for.
7. If you give birth only to expect you will still be able to look good, strut in your 3 inches with your 3 inches thick make up all the time n get your daily 10 hours uninterrupted beauty sleep and leave your maid to comfort your baby.. feeding fm cos its easier.. and some even resort to let baby sleep with maid or grandmother... I've got news for u too.. better if u just get a pet. Harsh I know.. but someone has gotta tell u.
8. I got 1 to add: If your child is bigger or smaller in size compare to other kids similar age, don't compare as it's Normal to be different in size!
9. If other mummies share their success stories by posting fridge load of ebm.. or tell you how much they have sacrificed to breastfeed their babies... please lah drop the attitude and don't make an a$$ out of yourself by thinking others are out to make u feel like a bad mother cos you are doing less. That's the guilt in you talking. You should instead congratulate the mummy and learn from her so that you can repeat her success. Seriously... drop the attitude. This is TBAN and we are all gungho and proud of being a breastfeeding mummy... n nobody judges you but yourself when it comes to being a 100% bf mummy or a 50% bf mummy or an EP mummy or any sort of mummy.
6. One more: no one like to 'drink' food from the bottle. If u intend to start cereal for LO when they are 6 months young, please let him / her to sit up and enjoy food from the proper plate / bowl with suitable spoon. That's the purpose of kitchen cutlery for.
7. If you give birth only to expect you will still be able to look good, strut in your 3 inches with your 3 inches thick make up all the time n get your daily 10 hours uninterrupted beauty sleep and leave your maid to comfort your baby.. feeding fm cos its easier.. and some even resort to let baby sleep with maid or grandmother... I've got news for u too.. better if u just get a pet. Harsh I know.. but someone has gotta tell u.
8. I got 1 to add: If your child is bigger or smaller in size compare to other kids similar age, don't compare as it's Normal to be different in size!
9. If other mummies share their success stories by posting fridge load of ebm.. or tell you how much they have sacrificed to breastfeed their babies... please lah drop the attitude and don't make an a$$ out of yourself by thinking others are out to make u feel like a bad mother cos you are doing less. That's the guilt in you talking. You should instead congratulate the mummy and learn from her so that you can repeat her success. Seriously... drop the attitude. This is TBAN and we are all gungho and proud of being a breastfeeding mummy... n nobody judges you but yourself when it comes to being a 100% bf mummy or a 50% bf mummy or an EP mummy or any sort of mummy.
Babies are human beings too.. incapable ones somemore. So don't except yr babies to be superbabies by tripling birth weight in 1 month, not fussy, sleep 10 hours straight, keep quiet when mummy is waxing her leg or applying nippon weathershield on the face, play by herself at 2 mths old, etc. Just like us all imperfect mummies who are still learning after being human for 30 years.. imagine those vulnerable newborns who are also just learning to recognise feelings and faces... n the most familiar and comforting one is trying to get away from baby.
Again, the word 'judge' always comes when there was no judging done. Ive read the post and all the comment- the likes n dislike comment, nobody said anything to jugde. FYI, many PC and people who are passionate abt bf are those who have fed bm alternatives who was sucked into boobytrap, so in my opinion this post shudnt be taken as judging, shud be taken as to warn new mommies of the boobytraps...said without the sugarcoating, as it is...motherhood isnt easy and knowing the 'normals' really ease off some pressure too and also the fact that normal for some (15 oz per pump) may not be normal for all, so we accept the differences....we encourage breastfeeding and also the advice the necessary changes in lifestyle to ensure good bf journey - knowing the above, mommies can adjust their lifestyle to their bf goals be it 3,6,9,12 or 24 months. Furthermore, these lifestyle changes are also changing according to our childrens age, the post doesnt say you are bad mom if you dont hold your pee - it just says its normal IF you r in that situation as many may experience the same. The post doesnt tell you to neglect yourself n your health - just that you have to adjust your life to your baby. For me, the way I think abt it from religion point of view - my children are borrowed to me from god, i have been given a huge responsibility to make a blank canvas into beautiful painting and its a big job for mommies to decide wat to put on this blank canvas, we sacrifice and adjust our lives around our children. Thats why in islam, heaven is at the feet of your mothers - because we go the extra mile. This post is not to judge, its to educate. Happy breastfeeding (and pumping).